Monday, December 9, 2013

Now *I* Can't Go Home Again...

The movers are coming to the Massachusetts house today. Ideally, the house will be all packed up and devoid of our belongings by nightfall; realistically it may take through Tuesday morning (we have a LOT of stuff). There's a cleaning crew scheduled to come to the house on Tuesday, and the closing is Wednesday. As of about 1:00 PM Wednesday, we will no longer own the house we built some 15 years ago.

Thoughts about Massachusetts aside, this is a pretty big deal.

It's even bigger when you realize that I have lived in this small town my entire life. College and graduate school were elsewhere, of course, but once I secured my first "real" job out of graduate school we started getting ready to build our house and put down roots. We received our land some 16 years ago; 15 years ago we spent several months poring over plans on the internet and looking at new construction homes for ideas. 14 years and nine months ago we moved into the home we are now vacating.

Like I said, it's a big deal.

The past two months have been a roller coaster for all of us. I've been relying on the kindness of friends down here in VA so that I didn't have to find (and pay for) temporary housing. We close on the VA house two months and two days after I started the new job, and to think that we've coordinated everything this close is pretty amazing. It took a lot of doing to pack up 15 years of our lives, but after today/tomorrow, all of our worldly possessions will be loaded up in a truck and waiting for arrival in VA.

This is the true new chapter in my life. The past two months have been a whirlwind, with the new job (new career!) being everything I thought/hoped it would be and then some - but with my family some 500 miles away, it's been a hollow victory. As much as I like the folks I've been staying with (both sets!), coming home to my family is eminently more satisfying and rewarding. The dream job loses something when I only see my kids every other week.

In two weeks we'll be closing on the VA house. In a little less than that, the family will be driving down to join me in anticipation of the closing. Two weeks from today, we'll be official VA residents. I intend to have my VA license as close to that point as I can (and will be filing my VA CHL paperwork as soon as I can, natch). Then the fun *really* begins... The kids start their new schools after the winter break, where hopefully the "new kid" aura won't be quite as bad. We'll get our lives back into some semblance of "normal" soon. I hope.

I do suspect we'll be unpacking boxes through the summer, though... 

That is all.

7 comments:

Mopar said...

From someone who has moved a fair amount, let me say this. You will still be unpacking boxes in the summer of 2024.

Ted said...

....... And the movers will pack anything and everything that is not firmly attached to the old house, Six months from now you will still be des covering things and trying to figure out how that got packed. Or saying. So that's where that went.

Armed Texan said...

Consider not unpacking as much. You might find much you can live without. We moved from TX to AZ for a contract job and knew we would not be there for more than a year or two. Our rental house had plenty of garage space and we kept a lot packed up. When we moved to NH, we decided that most of that stuff was unnecessary and purged it, only keeping things like photos and a few mementos. Everything else we gave to friends, charity or the local dump.

Wally said...

Last one out, strike a match.

Dirk said...

Mopar is right! Over four years ago, we moved out of our previous house after 16 years of living there. We *still* have boxes that have not yet been unpacked. We're finally making some progress, though. It's easy to be ruthless and just toss (or goodwill) stuff that's been in a box that long without being needed, though.

Daniel in Brookline said...

First off -- congratulations, Jay! I know you were nervous -- what if we don't find a new house? What if the old one doesn't sell? But soon you will be with your family, in your new house, at your dream job, and all the anxiety will be a memory.

In re unpacking, I can't say I agree with the others here. Granted, my wife and I didn't have quite as much STUFF as you when we combined households here, some nine years ago. Still, we promised ourselves that we would unpack at least one box every day, with NO exceptions, until everything was unpacked. It was tough... but we sure were glad to be done with it!

(If your objective is to clear out non-essentials, there are better ways to do it, then to use it as an excuse to put off the unpacking you don't really want to do anyway.)

DaddyBear said...

It's an adventure, so enjoy it!

Hope the transition for the kids goes OK. Moving schools can be stressful, but they could also have a grand time of it. And with today's technology, they can all ways FaceBook or whatever with their friends back in MA.