Thursday, May 23, 2013

Parenting: Doing It Right...

#1 Blogdaughter sends in this heartwarming story of a bully truly getting what she deserves, and parents (including a stepmom) who weren't going to let her get away with it...

10-year-old girl forced to wear thrift store clothing as punishment for being a bully
A Utah woman forced her fiance's 10-year-old daughter to wear an unflattering wardrobe to school after a teacher said the girl was bullying another classmate over the way she dresses.

A teacher at the Viewmont Elementary school in Murray last week emailed Mark, the father of Kaylee, and his fianceƩ Ally, explaining that she was harassing another student for three weeks, Fox13 reports. The last names of the family were not revealed to protect their privacy.
Now that is just plain awesome. Rather than give a meaningless punishment like no TV for a week, they turned the tables on the bully.They made her wear "unpopular" clothes to experience what it is like to have people making unkind comments about her wardrobe. It appears she's learned her lesson - which is the main point of the punishment. Rather than taking away her TV/iPhone/XBox/other modern convenience for a period of time, they gave her the experience that she was forcing upon others - and she realized that she didn't like it.

What surprises me is that folks disagree with this punishment, claiming that the parents were being bullies by doing this. Hello? The whole job of the parent is to guide the child - and part of that includes punishment when the child knowingly breaks the rules. I applaud these parents - they could just as easily have pulled the "my precious snowflake could NEVER do that" righteous indignation, or simply ignored it, or even just gave a half-hearted "don't do that again". Instead, they took an active role in their child's life; decided on a fitting punishment; carried it out; and made sure she learned something from this episode.

Bravo, folks, bravo - I'll bet pretty steep odds she won't do that again.

That is all.

3 comments:

Jennifer said...

Well done! The punishment fit the action and lessons were learned. Perfect!

Dirk said...

I absolutely, and totally, without reservation of any kind, agree with this punishment!! I do hope the young lady in question has learned her lesson well.

We may all be created equal, but those of us who are able to improve our lot more than others should not be sneering at those who don't or can't.

Daniel in Brookline said...

Yep! My wife and I are fond of telling our kids that they don't get punished, they get consequences. My favorite example was when one of the girls had trouble getting up in the morning, and had accumulated too many tardies at school. The "natural consequence" was to conclude that she wasn't getting enough sleep... so her bedtime was made an hour earlier. Oh my, you should have heard the screams of outrage! (In fact, you probably did.)

Making the punishment fit the crime can be hard work. But nobody ever said good parenting was easy...