So, TheBoy got the word this morning that he didn't make the travel team basketball league. 35 boys tried out for 22 slots, and he wasn't one of the boys chosen. He's upset about it; there are kids that made the team that he knows he's better than, that he's played on the court and feels that he is a better player than some that made the team. I don't know what the criteria was for making the team; I coached him last year and while he wasn't the best player on the team, he was pretty good. It also doesn't hurt that he's one of the tallest kids in the school...
So, he's sad and disappointed, and a little angry. This is one of the hard times for a parent; I want to contact the guys running the program and ask what the hell they're smoking - but I know from running competitive programs that they have their reasons for choosing, or not choosing, the players they did. I know TheBoy, and he was lukewarm at best about trying out. If he showed up and was fooling around, goofing off to get laughs from the other kids like he is known to do, I absolutely don't blame them for deciding to leave him off the roster.
Part of me wants to contact the coaches and just ask why TheBoy didn't make the cut. I'll be coaching his intramural team this year, and I can work with him to improve those areas. I'm reluctant to do this for two reasons: If there's a "political" reason (like, say, the coach's kid made the team despite having inferior skills), then nothing I say is going to make a difference; also, TheBoy is quite sensitive to "mom/dad interfering", and he has asked us not to contact the coaches on his behalf.
I'll respect that, and I'll work with him this year to improve his skills for when he moves on to the middle school and they have team tryouts. Part of it has to do with paying attention and listening to the coach's instructions - but that's something that applies across the board. We'll do what we can to further develop his skills, and with maturity, he should grow into a decent player. But right now, it's about having fun and learning, and we'll be doing that first and foremost.
And, much like the other sports teams around here, there's always next year.
That is all.